Love and Chess

Picture this if you will:

I am bored out of my mind so I start randomly exploring blogs on blogspot just trying to pass time. Of course I am not finding anything very interesting, which is to be expected when reading things about peoples life you don't know. Sooo anyway, I randomly come across this blog and it starts ranting about how being a teenager is easy compared to the phase in which we are all stuck in right now- young adults. It was a great rant, so I keep reading.

So I'm reading and reading and her rant finishes and she starts a new paragraph on a totally different topic. This topic being marriage. Now, love is interesting anyway you look at it. It can cause so much happiness but it can also put you in complete agony in a matter of seconds... so naturally, I keep reading. She explains how she believes marriage is the number one cause of divorce, which is true. Then she explains how too many people see dating as a path to marriage, and that she doesn't believe in that. I am skeptical of her theories, until I read this:


"Well because I don't believe that dating is a direct path to marriage, but more of a game of snakes and ladders or chess. You learn from your mistakes and apply that knowledge to your next big move. Some of your pawns, rooks or knights may get picked off but these are the sacrifices you make. Doesn't mean those pieces weren't helpful altogether. Who knows, perhaps that one white knight helped you take down half of the board. He may not make it to the end, but it was still worth having that piece in the game. And when it comes down to it, the last piece you want standing is that king."

I think she is a smart cookie, whoever she is. It is interesting that there is such a high divorce rate in this day and age. It seems that she may have a point with her notion of not believing in the expectation of dating leading to marriage. I mean, obviously, one day along the line, marriage could happen, but her whole idea of this "dating to marry" is that people rush into it. It seems that people do it because its available and there is a pressure to get married in society. It seems that people are willing to say "I do", before they can truthfully, truthfully mean and understand "I love you" with all of their heart.

What happened to dating someone because they make you feel good and you like spending time with them? The only expectation that you have is that you show up for your date on Saturday. The only expectations that you have are the ones that you have discussed together in an open and honest dialouge. There are no guessing games, and there are no assumptions because everything is already layed out on the table for both of you.

As far as our little game of chess goes, playing a million games of chess, kissing goodbye a million shy pawns, creative rooks, knights in shining armour, and even a few queens would pale in comparison to losing the one that mattered the most, the King, just because I thought I could have it all in the first game.



listening to right now:
House Where Nobody Lives- Tom Waits